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Goodbye San Diego

Filed under: General — Laura Moncur @ 5:00 am

Mike and I went on a lovely trip to San Diego back in October. It was a life-changing trip because it made the both of us want to move to California. We have lots of friends that live in San Diego and we seriously considered moving there, including looking at apartments while we were there.

After months of consideration, however, we have decided to stay in Salt Lake City. The attraction of old friends and beautiful weather year ‘round just can’t compete against family and low housing costs. This is the second time that the two of us have seriously considered moving to California and have decided to stay.

In some respects, I feel so relieved that we have decided to stay. I love the mountains. I love my family. I even find a sick amusement at the lack of separation of church and state. I love it here despite the cold and the snow.

I also feel trapped. I feel a little bit like George Bailey. My friends have gone to make their fortunes in San Diego and I’m still here. I wasn’t even trapped here by horrible circumstances like George was. My father didn’t die. The Savings and Loan wasn’t going to go to the evil Mr. Potter unless I stayed. I stayed because I’m too cheap to pay $2K a month for an apartment that isn’t as good as my 873 square foot, mouse-infested, haunted house. Well, that and I don’t want to miss out on my family’s lives.

I guess I’m never going to move out of Salt Lake City. I’ll have to be happy with my hippie-infested area of Sugarhouse, because that’s the most liberal I’m going to find for three hundred miles. For the last few months, I have looked at every item I owned, trying to decide if it should follow me to San Diego. Instead, they are all staying here with me. I’m relieved and I’m disappointed. It’s such a strange ambiguity.



  1. There is no ambiguity for us. We certainly are glad the two of you are staying.

    Comment by Daniel — 1/4/2006 @ 9:29 am

  2. A LOT of people are glad you’re staying! We came from California, and we love it here…so perhaps the grass is always greener…


    Comment by Sean — 1/4/2006 @ 10:01 am

  3. The first step is to know one’s self. You do.

    Comment by Gene M — 1/4/2006 @ 5:08 pm

  4. Ha! I have similar feelings, but for me, the question is: should I move to the east coast. Ok, since you are staying, here are three things that are better about Salt Lake City than San Diego: 1. Better Libraries! 2. Better and more liberal radio. (KRCL in Utah) In San Diego, companies can get around broadcasting laws by broadcasting from Mexico and thus overpower smaller stations. 3. Fall leaves.

    Comment by Braidwood — 1/5/2006 @ 12:17 pm

  5. I almost moved to sd twice myself. I put a higher value on home and familiarity. This was a nice post.

    Comment by steve — 4/16/2007 @ 4:13 pm

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